Even when you are apart, there are plenty of ways to both playfully remind him who’s in control and get precisely what you want.
“Pick a Number” is easy and fun. Instruct him via phone, email or text to pick a number between one and (whatever number you’ve determined). Don’t allow him to ask any questions, just remind him to do as you’ve asked. Once he has selected a number, end the discussion. Leaving him puzzled and eager for more information should keep him a little aroused til the next time you speak ;)
After he simmers for awhile, contact him to explain both his assignment and how you determined what it would be.
Perhaps your list will be wholly romantic:
- Choose some romantic songs and send them to me. Be prepared to tell me why you selected each song.
- Create a romantic fantasy to share with me.
- Develop a handwritten list of all the things you love about me. Read it to me when we speak and then drop it in the mail tomorrow.
- Find a truly romantic short story and read it aloud to me tonight.
Since you’re a benevolent Mistress, you could revise the list to add these sentences to the end of each option:
- Do so while stroking your cock. You may not release.
Nothing like creating a win/win situation ;)
Perhaps your list will be more sensual:
- Create a fantasy that includes all the things I find incredibly exciting.
- Purchase a new pair of r*d silk boxers for me and send a photo of you kneeling while wearing them.
- Call me at bedtime and pretend to be a wrong number. I’ll lead the way after that ;)
- Write my name on the top of each thigh, close to the groin area. Use ink. Tell me how grateful you are it isn’t permanent marker ;)
These are just a few things that sound appealing to me. The opportunities for your lists are, of course, endless :)
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“Remote Control” posts offer suggestions for long distance Femdom relationships or for those times when couples are apart.
I like some of those quite a bit. :)
I have a hard time thinking of things to ask him to do that I think he wants to do. I don’t want him to do things he doesn’t want to do.
Hello Karen,
In my experience, instead of trying to think of stuff he wants or random activities, this actually works very well for me if I ask him to do things I really want done, and things I enjoy him doing. Sometimes I ask him to wiggle his ass for me, and my enjoyment of that feeds his enjoyment of doing it. He responds very well to my pleasure when the requests are completed, and to my pleasure with him for doing them. If you focus on your pleasure and on expressing your pleasure to him, you may find that he can thrive on that. :)
If he doesn’t want to do something, I’m sure he can tell you why and suggest an agreeable alternative.
Good luck.