Dear Lady Julia,
My husband wants me to dominate him, but I don’t know where to start. Can you help?
I believe dominance isn’t really about what you to – it’s more of a state of mind. If you’re confident, sexy, and assertive, your submissive fella will most likely respond quite well (smiles). That’s sometimes easier said than achieved, though. Isn’t it?
When you first transition to a more dominant role in your relationship, you may feel a bit uncertain. You know what he wants and hopefully what you want, but you may have no idea how to achieve these things. Don’t fret, it’s quite normal to feel that way. I was quite hesitant in the beginning, but as I began to try new things, I discovered what I did and didn’t enjoy. Even more than that, I found new ideas stemming from each thing I tried. As I began to enjoy myself, my confidence grew both in what I was doing and in how I felt about myself. I was sexy and I knew it – I could tell by his reactions and mine as well.
On this site I will share some of the things I’ve done with my fella and also with some of my submissive friends. This is not offered as advice – after all, I’m no expert. I’m simply a woman who knows what works for me. Hopefully these ideas will be food for thought as you seek to identify the things that fit with your style of dominance.
~ Lady Julia
Another helpful site. You really are wonderful, Lady Julia, in how you are so willing to give back to the community. You offer practical approaches, suggestions, guidance and experience for those who truly want to participate in the lifestyle, rather than just fueling the fantasies of those online. Well, actually, you do that too. ;)
Thanks for being who you are.
Thank you, wandering (smiles).
Hoping my wife will enjoy this new avenue for ideas. Thanks, Rex
I hope so too, Rex :) Please tell her to say “hello” when she drops by :)
~ Lady Julia
Lady Julia, I’m looking forward to reading your blog as I am constantly struggling to find the simplicity in what is a difficult way of life to me. The letter you quote at the top of “The Beginning” post might as well have been written by me some time ago… now I know where to start… kind of… but I can never seem to “make it work” for me/us. I’m so NOT the dominant type naturally. Anyway, thanks for the blog and I’ll be reading. Sharon (wife of Rex saying hi) =)
Sharon, welcome :)
I’m looking forward to sharing ideas with you and any others who might drop by. There’s no telling what the men in our lives are in store for ;)
Lady Julia,
I love reading your blogs but I wondered whether it’s intentional that your RSS/Atom feeds only show a few lines. I read most stuff in Google Reader or on my phone. Like the sound of this new blog in particular for both my partner and myself.
Would love if if I could see the whole post in the RSS reader… pretty please???
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Aaron, I am aware the RSS feed only shows a few lines and set it that way for a couple of reasons. While that “pretty please” is so very tempting (smiles) I prefer to leave it that way for now. Since you did ask so nicely, I will consider it for a few days before making a final decision :)
Thanks for reading.
~ Lady Julia
Lady Julia,
Thanks for considering the request.
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Lady Julia,
I’ve just noticed that full RSS feed is now available.
Thank you! :)
Aaron