A little music, a teasing email, and one sexy voice mail can equal a whole lot of fun:

I was lying in bed, thinking of you, listening to this song, and touching. When I could feel myself getting closer to the edge, I decided to phone you and allow you to share in my release. Those moans of pleasure sound wonderful, don’t they? In some ways I’m glad I caught your voice mail – now you can listen whenever you want. I like rewarding you for being a good boy ;)

I’m looking forward to hearing all the different thoughts and feelings that message inspires ;) I also very much enjoy thinking of you squirming a little while you’re at work, trying to hide how turned on you are.

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I Want You is a post from: Simple Dominance, (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

Yesterday, on my main blog, I posted a description of an erotic tease and denial encounter. I thought it might be helpful to explain why I chose to do certain things.

Men if your partners read here, go away now as the rest of this post is not for you.

I mean it. Be a good boy and obey ;)

Excellent.

The scene is simple, a tease and denial in which my fella cannot look at me while I touch. For many, denial is a real hot button. Tell them they can’t do something and wow, they really want to even more than they did before. In a scene like this, a lady who is a bit self conscious about what she’s doing or how she looks can relax. He can’t see. His lovely vivid imagination is filling in all the blanks. She can just sit back, relax, and enjoy.

“Kneel for me, Sexy Man… right here, facing the door.”

The tie is to remind you not to touch yourself. Of course you could anyway, but you won’t, because my control is stronger than any bond. Your fingers won’t wander because I don’t want them to.” As you feel the belt from my soft, silky robe in your mouth, I add, “Just a little reminder that you are not allowed to speak either.”

Kneeling while symbolically bound and gagged speaks of control to him, while still feeling soft and sensual to me. There’s nothing being used that is scary looking or that could hurt him. The belt/gag is attached with just one loop of the cloth, no knots. The tie/bondage implement is held snug by his own hands. No circulation worries or anything. I love using things like this because, while toys are fun, I don’t want him to ever think for a moment that the toy controls him. *I* control him.

Speaking of which, he loves hearing things like that – “I control you,” or “Unless I order you to,” as they are strong reinforcers of who is in charge.

The lips on the back of his neck, the sucking and kiss on his ear – sensual, romantic, erotic – things that remind him that “vanilla” sex is yummy, I’m sexy, he’s sexy, and he shouldn’t ever forget any of that should I desire to take the kinky down a notch or two – or eliminate it completely. Making love to me is a super hot privilege no matter how I choose for it to happen ;)

“You really love my breasts, don’t you? Touching them, kissing them.. your warm mouth closing around each nipple, sucking.. your tongue licking..”

My attitude is one that says of course he desires me, of course he craves to touch me. My tone and words – teasing, taunting. I can touch what he so desperately needs to touch. Ladies, I assure you, by this point, he wants you in a bad, bad way ;)

“Watching as your cock stiffens and begs – yes, begs to be taken.”

Just letting him know I am well aware of what his body is doing. After all, it’s mine and I’m controlling it. I’m so certain that I’m in control and he is responding just as I wish that I don’t even have to look. I know.

Also, “begging” is a word and action that pushes *my* hot buttons. I love to know he wants something that badly. Whew. If I don’t finish this, *I* am going to need a cold shower ;)

“Feeling oh so controlled and deliciously frustrated, aren’t you, my Darling?” As you nod, I continue. “You want so much to slip in the bed beside me, to touch my body, and to feel me take you just as I described. Isn’t that right?”

Smiles. You know what’s happening here. Teasing, luring, getting his hopes up…

“Stand. Yes, that’s my good boy. Don’t turn. Continue facing the door, remove the tie from your wrists, and then the gag. Now strip for me.”

Another hot button for me (and him). When he strips, he’s experiencing a number of things – desired, a little vulnerable, sexy. I like him feeling all those things (well, vulnerable only in this context. I don’t want him feeling vulnerable as a rule.)

“Reach out and switch off the light. Good boy.” Pausing for a moment, I add, “Now.. head downstairs my sexy Darling. You’ll be sleeping on the sofa tonight. Don’t forget to close the door on your way out and remember, no touching.”

And there it is – the initial disappointment followed by the oh so delicious feeling of being denied and controlled.

I like this scene for a number of reasons. As I mentioned in the beginning, it’s low pressure. It’s sensual, it’s loving, and it demonstrates that control does not require implements or any forced actions. It’s all about him surrendering control and me accepting it.

If explanations like this are helpful, let me know. I certainly do not wish to expound upon the obvious nor am I attempting to insult anyone’s intelligence. I simply thought it might be of some use to those new to dominance and submission when planning things to do with your fellas.

To the fellas who were permitted to read here, I’d like to ask that you add any thoughts you have about the scene I described on my main blog or the comments I made here.

~ Lady Julia

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I Do It My Way is a post from: Simple Dominance, (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

• Physical tease. Movie and TV time can lead to soooo much fun.
• A ritual involving shower time. A simple and easy ritual for you, a very powerful and exciting time for him :)
• Being playful over the phone. There’s nothing quite like seeing a man squirm from pleasurable discomfort.
• Simple card game tease. This has been so much fun for me!
• A tease and denial idea from a friend. Can you tell I like tease and denial activities? :)
• Orgasm control – the eight day plan. Yet another orgasm control, tease and denial idea.

These last three are some general remarks about simple dominance and the average woman.

You’re probably already more in control than you realize.

Most women have long controlled their men in very subtle ways. I think quite often we don’t even realize we’re doing it because at least to some degree, it’s instinctive. If we become more aware of what’s transpiring and at the right moment point out to him what has happened, we can really push our submissive fella’s buttons.

Dominance and the Soft Cloak of Femininity

You don’t have to be a bitch to be in control.

If I Were a Vanilla Woman

Things I would like to say to my partner if he approached me about dominating him.

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From the Past is a post from: Simple Dominance, (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

Taking you. I’ve never been really good at denying that urge even if I am in the midst of denying your cock any pleasure.

Suddenly, struck by a plan that allows me a bit of both options, (pleasure for me, tease and denial for you), I smile.

Pulling back the shower curtain, my eyes take in the sight of you. Conveniently, you are naked. You aren’t trying to tempt me, are you, pet?

“Go into the bedroom, open my top dresser drawer and remove my cotton gloves. Bring them to me.”

“Your cotton gloves? Why do…” Your words trail off at my look, a mixture of hunger and determination that means I will abide no questions.

Hurriedly you fetch the gloves and return, standing an arm’s reach from the shower door. “Mistress, I have your gloves.” Your excitement is obvious, as much by the hardness of your cock as in the sound of your voice.

“Put on the gloves.”

Quizzically you look at me, but this time you remember – no questions.

“Now, step in the shower, pet.”

I chuckle inwardly. The speed with which you hop in the shower clearly demonstrates there is no need to ask twice.

As the water falls over your back and shoulders, I lean forward to kiss you. Your lips are so warm and inviting. My fingertips explore your chest, teasing your nipples, sliding tantalizing down your stomach and below. In spite of your quick intake of breath, your hands remain at your sides. Good boy. You know you may not touch without my permission.

Stepping back I pour a bit of shower gel into the palm of my hand, soap up my fingers, and begin running them teasingly over my body. Those soft, sensual curves you so love to touch. A low growl escapes your lips and I smile.

“Would you like to touch me, pet?”

“Oh yes, Mistress. Please.”

The quiet intensity in your voice reveals more vulnerability than your nakedness does.

“Very well, you may touch.”

You move to remove the gloves and I hold up my hand to stop you.

“What are you doing, pet?”

“Removing the gloves so I may touch you, Mistress?”

I couldn’t help but laugh as realization dawns. “I must touch you .. while wearing these gloves, Mistress?” Your expression transitions from incredulity to dismay to… yes.. there it is.. excitement.

“Stand behind me and allow your gloved hands to caress me. That’s right.. your strong hands wrapped in all that softness feels so good. It’s a pity you’re being denied, pet. I know how much you love the touch of my soft, silky skin. You don’t mind being denied for me, do you, pet?” My soft moans of pleasure distract you, delaying your response.

“Yes, Mistress. I mean.. No, Mistress.”

Another laugh. “Well, which is it, pet? Yes or no?”

“Yes, I mind. I mean, I want to touch you. I soooo want to touch you. But no, I don’t mind because even more than I want to touch you – which is a WHOLE LOT Mistress – I want to please you.”

“Continue caressing my body, pet. There – cup my breasts and play with my nipples. Mmmmm. Oh… poor you. You love touching my nipples better than almost any other part of my body.”

You sigh softly.

“It seems to me… well… you tell me, pet. Which part of my body do you love to touch more than anything? Even more than my breasts and nipples?”

“Your pussy, Mistress.”

“Oh yes. I remember now.” I laugh. I cannot help but to enjoy the look of sheer frustration on your face. “Well, let’s see, I don’t think those gloves will feel very good against the softness between my thighs, do you, pet?”

“No, Mistress!”, you agree with so much eagerness.

“I suppose I could let you take off the gloves but… oh no. You are being denied right now… aren’t you, pet?”, I ask in a laughter-laced voice.

“Yes, Mistress.”

“Well, allowing you to touch me just won’t do, will it, pet?”

“No, Mistress”. I think the tease is getting to you, pet ;)

“Go and retrieve my new dildo.”

“Yes, Mistress.”

As you turn to step out of the shower I laugh, draw you back to me, and kiss you softly. “Get down on your knees in front of me, pet. First, adjust the water so you don’t drown ;) Now. Tell me. How much do you love me?”

“More than anything, Mistress!” The look in your eyes melts my heart. I so love you as well.

“Which would you prefer? To end your period of denial a week earlier, leaving you with two more weeks of no release, or kneeling now, pleasuring me with your tongue, and extending your denial to end in a month.”

You hesitate a moment, your throbbing cock twitching as you consider the cost of your choice. Smiling, you lean forward to demonstrate your reply.

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(c) 2010 Lady Julia

Thanks to a very good boy I know for the idea of the shower mitts. See what happens when you say or do something that sparks my imagination? ;)

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Step into the Shower, Pet is a post from: Simple Dominance, (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)