Dear Lady Julia,

My husband wants me to dominate him, but I don’t know where to start. Can you help?

I believe dominance isn’t really about what you to – it’s more of a state of mind. If you’re confident, sexy, and assertive, your submissive fella will most likely respond quite well (smiles). That’s sometimes easier said than achieved, though. Isn’t it?

When you first transition to a more dominant role in your relationship, you may feel a bit uncertain. You know what he wants and hopefully what you want, but you may have no idea how to achieve these things. Don’t fret, it’s quite normal to feel that way. I was quite hesitant in the beginning, but as I began to try new things, I discovered what I did and didn’t enjoy. Even more than that, I found new ideas stemming from each thing I tried. As I began to enjoy myself, my confidence grew both in what I was doing and in how I felt about myself. I was sexy and I knew it – I could tell by his reactions and mine as well.

On this site I will share some of the things I’ve done with my fella and also with some of my submissive friends. This is not offered as advice – after all, I’m no expert. I’m simply a woman who knows what works for me. Hopefully these ideas will be food for thought as you seek to identify the things that fit with your style of dominance.

~ Lady Julia

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