Many of the things that Ladies could do to demonstrate or reinforce their control derive from rituals – both actions and indicators of position. Actions might include having the man assume a particular posture such as having his head bowed or simply his eyes cast down. Bowing at the head or waist, curtseying, kneeling either upon the Lady’s entry into a room, or at the time of rendering a service, or at specific instruction from the Lady would certainly both demonstrate the Lady’s superior position and reinforce the man’s submissive position.

Kneeling is a simple yet strong posture that you have employed in the experiences. The use of the position at the start of or the end of a day’s activities does allow for reflection, and I have found that it has helped to move me to what is sometimes referred to as sub space, a place where I am particularly attuned to the needs and desires of the Dominant.

Relative postures can be reinforced with verbal cues, which can be in a vast range and can take many forms, such as positive reinforcement (compliments for good service and the occasional, “you are doing so well”), straight direction, or negative reinforcement such as scolding or words intended to cause the submissive to feel embarrassment. I find quiet reinforcement combined with the occasional verbal reminder of relative position most effective.

From the man, simple rules of how to appropriately address the Lady serve as direct methods of control and a reminder of position. Specifying and insisting upon the method of address (“Lady Julia” for example). Requiring verbal acknowledgment of any direction and prohibiting any disagreement or argument would be means of reinforcing control.

Attire can play a part, obviously. When naked, particularly if the Lady is clothed, one is naturally submissive. Adding a particular uniform, particularly one that the Lady finds attractive and interesting is also an effective method of establishing relative roles. Having the man wear a garment or piece of jewelry not ordinarily worn is a simple method of reinforcement.

There are certainly other techniques for the demonstration or reinforcement of an exchange of power. Among two in a real life relationship, communication about particular methods is extremely important, and it would certainly seem that introducing or experimenting with different methods might prove both enjoyable and productive. Avoiding a laundry list of requirements that becomes over burdensome on the Lady, and therefore counterproductive, is critical.

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A Submissive Man’s Point of View: Demonstrating or Reinforcing Control is a post from: Simple Dominance, (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)