In response to my post, “I Did It My Way“, J asked,
Why is everything about what the man wants? Everything you wrote is about what it does for him.
I can see where it might appear that way, J, but that isn’t the case. I very much enjoy controlling his reactions, most especially his physical and emotional responses to sexual stimuli. I can’t really explain “why” I enjoy it – I just do. Watching his body react, hearing his sharp intake of breath, knowing how much he desires me – all yumminess in my book.
Over time, a Lady can learn what a man’s buttons are and how to push them. I choose what happens, when, and where. If there are things that interest him that don’t interest me, I can choose something else. He has plenty of buttons ;) If there are things I want, I ask for them. Well I ask if he hasn’t already anticipated :)
While I admit I enjoy having my way in general, the sensual aspect of dominance is what most appeals. Even though I’m just an average woman, I feel sexy since I discovered how much I enjoy being in control. Not pressured for sex – sexy. I also feel fairly confident and content within myself as a whole. I’ve found my place, my style for doing things and it feels really good.
Thank you for explaining, Lady Julia. I hope I didn’t seem rude. On all the blogs I read it appears the women do this for the man and I always wonder why they don’t ask for what they want too. I see now why you do it but I still don’t understand why those wives do. It must be hard if it isn’t natural for them like it seems it is for you.